Sunday thoughts

Family is a beautiful word. Being part of a family is very tough as both expect certain things from one another and when things don’t go according to one’s way of thinking, the relationship can get a little messy. There are different stages in the life of a person and it is essential that the elders in your family understand that. Also, times change and parents sometimes fail to understand that yet, it is their duty to be on the same page with us in our different stages in life. They are older, wiser, more experienced and know a lot, but they do not know everything and that is where the balance between parents and their children should come in.

As parents or guardians sometimes tend to hold on to their kids for so long and hard that they tend to forget that it is part of life that people grow and become responsible for themselves. Parents should give their kids a chance not only to speak but to do things that the children think will be beneficial for both parties more so when they get to that young adult stage of life.

Helping out your children as they get older is not always about giving the money you have been saving for him during his early years, or other material means but try to instill a sense of responsibility and self-sustenance in them and let them do things for themselves, it is part of education. As I have always thought, I would rather have my parents teach me how to catch a fish, than giving me the fish in my hand, that way I will always be grateful to them and it help me become a better person and achieve more.

Parents do not be afraid to teach your children how to become independent and how to get a head start on life, and by parents I mean everyone that has children under their care. Give your children responsibilities, make them feel useful, consider your children’s thoughts and ideas, if you have a car teach them how to drive, if you have a company make them part of it by giving them small jobs to do, give them money as well as they need it but know how to balance it, it is the small things that will make a huge difference in the future, and what may seem stupid and illogical to you may be your kid’s greatest need.

The older we live the more we know, but that does not necessarily mean that we know more than everybody younger than us. Of all the people on earth, I never thought I would actually learn so much more about life from a person younger than I am. Hearing things I needed to hear from this person changed my whole perspective of life and made me learn things about myself that I never knew I had as well. I would not be writing this to you guys if it was not for this person.